Narcissistic narcissus, looking in the mirror, is an image known to everyone. But behind this caricature lies a deep personality disorder that poisons the lives not only of the narcissist himself but also of everyone who falls into his orbit. Narcissism today has become a fashionable word: it is used to label egotistical bloggers, toxic bosses, and even ex-spouses. However, true narcissism is not just "I love myself." It is a fragile, glass-like self-esteem, parasitizing on others' attention, and a complete lack of empathy. Can one fight narcissism? And what to do if you discover its traits in yourself? What is narcissism Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is included in DSM-5 (diagnostic manual). Its signs: a grandiose sense of self-importance, fantasies of success and power, a need for constant admiration, a sense of uniqueness, exploitation of others, a lack of empathy, jealousy, and the belief that others envy him. It is important: narcissism is a spectrum. There are healthy narcissistic traits (self-confidence, leadership), and there is a pathology that hinders living. The cause is often childhood trauma: either excessive flattery ("you are the center of the earth") or coldness and humiliation ("you are a nobody"). The child builds a defense - a grandiose "I" to not feel pain. Types of narcissism Grandiose (open) narcissist - a braggart, demanding applause. He does not doubt his greatness. Vulnerable (hidden) narcissist - outwardly shy, but inside convinced of his uniqueness. He suffers from the fact that the world does not recognize his genius. Malignant narcissist - a mixture of narcissism with antisocial disorder: he is aggressive, vindictive, capable of cruelty. It is important to understand that behind the mask of arrogance lies a wounded child. But this does not justify toxic behavior. How to recognize a narcissist in relationships First, he charms: "you are the only one," "no one understands you as I do." Then he devalues: "you are too sensitive ... Read more